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Introduces the core idea that repeating life patterns come from identity and subconscious programming, not a lack of effort. Sets up the process of changing from the inside out.
By the end of this video, you will understand why you've been stuck repeating the same patterns over and over again and how to shift your identity and actually attract the external circumstances that match the person you're becoming.Maybe you've done the journaling, you've listened to the podcasts, pushed yourself harder and harder to change, but somehow you keep ending up in the same relationships, the same situations, the same circumstances.I've spent years studying psychology, identity, and subconscious patterns, and I realized the biggest shifts don't happen when you force yourself harder.They happen naturally when your identity changes.So in this video, we're going through the whole process, how to actually change from the inside out, starting with uncovering the subconscious beliefs that are quietly shaping your life, how to create new beliefs, mindset, and identity, and thenfinally, how all of this will naturally change the way you act and therefore the reality you create.
So we need to identify the beliefs that we hold that aren't in alignment with who we want to be.That is the first and most important step because this step needs radical honesty.And a lot of people jump over this step because they know what they want and they think that all they need to do is concentrate on that rather than doing the internal work and thinking about what is holdingthem from becoming that version and where are they not meeting themselves with pure radical honesty.We can literally be our own worst enemy in the way we talk to ourselves, in the way we sabotage our own behaviors, etc.So it is really important to get into the subconscious work of finding out what beliefs you're holding currently that are holding you back.What are subconscious beliefs?Subconscious beliefs are deeply, deeply ingrained beliefs.They can come through childhood, through your past experiences, through trauma, through expectations and programming, through culture, a lot of different factors.
And often times we are not aware of these subconscious patterns that we carry because they're either so normalized in the environment that we find ourselves in or we are so unconscious in our day-to-day life that we just reacton autopilot and we never really question why we act a certain way or why our life is the way that it is.And that's why I think it's important when you're trying to identify because this will be the first step in this journey is to identify what subconscious beliefs do you hold within yourself and most people are overwhelmed by thatquestion because how are you meant to know what your beliefs are, you know?Like they're not conscious.
Explains how to reverse-engineer subconscious beliefs by examining emotional triggers, sabotage, envy, and childhood conditioning. Shows how these hidden patterns keep people stuck in the same loops.
A method how to find that out would be reverse engineering.By that I mean that instead of searching for the subconscious belief first, try to look at your life and try to find out what are your emotional triggers.What situations trigger you the most?Why do they trigger you?What feelings come up?Etc.And or ask yourself where do I sabotage myself?Where do I project onto other people?What is something that I envy in other people?What people like really annoy me?What behavior like really gets to me?And then really be honest with yourself why.Because we often envy other people for things that we don't allow ourselves to experience or that we don't allow ourselves to express.That could be a sign for a for an underlying subconscious belief or something where you suppress who you truly are, where you suppress your authenticity, something that's out of balance.
Extreme emotional triggers are also a sign of this because why does a situation or a person have that much control?Like what really is triggering you?So some reflection question at this point would be also to ask yourself about your childhood, what emotions were punished when you were a child, which ones were accepted, and what behaviors were praised.As adults, we actually act the same way.We actually struggle with the emotions that were not when we were younger, and we still try to get that praise, I don't know, from whom, but we're walking around like we need it, when in reality we don't.Also, if you are interested in getting more of these questions, I have linked down a subconscious journal entry.It's completely free, and I've just written down some questions that you can fill out that might help you to reflect on all of this and to get to the deeper issue and to get to the subconscious beliefs that
are holding you back.Or why are these subconscious beliefs so powerful?It's because they are influencing the story that we tell ourselves, how we view ourselves.And based on that, our brain experiences confirmation bias.That means we have a belief and we're looking for evidence in the world around us, in the people we meet, in the way we're being treated, in all the situations, in everything you're experiencing, you're looking for that confirmation.And I'm sure you've experienced this in some other ways before where, I don't know, if you want a certain type of car, you've never seen that car before, but now that you want that car, you see it everywhere.You can see how powerful our attention is and how we are looking for things in our environments that are important to us or that align with the story that we tell ourselves.It's the same thing with these subconscious beliefs, which is why you'll hear people that get successful say, I had they had this maybe this click moment and then all of a sudden they saw all these opportunities.
And these opportunities were there before.It's not that they weren't there in the world.Like they were there this whole time, but they were just not accessible to that person or they or the person just wasn't able to see them because their attention was elsewhere.You need to understand there's so many realities and opportunities happening at the same time.You are basically deciding which reality is unfolding in every second of the day.So another example here would be if you have the subconscious belief that you are just not good enough, you might not wake up thinking that every morning, I'm not good enough, I'm not good enough, but if you havethat belief deeply ingrained in you, you'll unconsciously make decisions or tolerate situations or interpret situations in a way that will reaffirm this belief that you're holding.So what we want to find out is the old program through adaptation, through childhood, through trauma, through fear, through conditioning.
We want to see the opposite of that, which most likely is the true self.The true self being values, desire, authenticity, creativity, intuition.This is a state that we all seek.When you have a disconnection between this programming and your true self and you're stuck in this disconnection, this is when you find yourself repeating the same things over and over again and you feel like you're in some loopand you feel stuck and you feel like you can't get out, you can't change your habits and you're constantly seeking for external.
Covers methods for replacing old beliefs with new ones through affirmations, visualization, pattern interruption, and pre-sleep programming. Emphasizes building the emotional state of the future self.
That's where people are over consuming constantly because they are trying to fill a void.They're trying to fill this gap that they know that they're experiencing because they aren't acting from their true self.There's this quote that goes, your growth is directly proportional to the amount of truth you can handle about yourself.This is so true.You need to be radically honest with yourself.There is no way around it.If you're not honest, you can never change.So for example, if you have the old story, I'm behind in life, I'm not good enough, I'm not disciplined or I have to chase.Ask yourself, what emotions do I feel?Who would I be if that belief wasn't true and if I would actually trust myself?And then write down affirmations that are exactly the opposite.So for example, I trust myself.I'm someone who receives.I'm someone who flows in life.
All of these things that you currently don't believe in.This way you are affirming your new beliefs through repetition and through that repetition, you're going to slowly change your inner dialogue.Another way here that comes in here is visualization.I 'm sure everyone has heard of that practice before because visualization activates similar areas in the brain as real experiences.So that's why this is so powerful to visualize a person that you want to become, to visualize whatever it is that you want or that you want to do.Breaking this automatic programming that I was talking about earlier.For example, the old program could be you feel rejected, you start obsessing, you start checking, you start to seek reassurance from a person.Pattern interruption means you're interrupting this automatic loop and you're sitting down, you're interrupting and you're taking a pause.That's all you have to do is taking a pause, creating time between trigger and your reaction.
Name the trigger, name why it triggered you, name the emotion, feel it, let it go, and then you can react from a more calm space and you can choose a new response.And when you have mastered this, you're going to feel so powerful because you're going to you're going to walk through life knowing and having the confidence that nothing can really trigger you this deeply so that you lose controland you find yourself in these automatic loops where you're just completely reactive.Another thing that really helps with changing your subconscious beliefs is pre-sleep programming.The moments before you sleep are extremely powerful because your mind is more receptive.Your brain basically shifts from active alert states into relaxed states.So the prefrontal cortex of the brain quiets down making your mind more receptive.And what you're doing is you're using that frame where your mind is more receptive to program things into it that you would actually want like positive things.
So you can use that with affirmations, you can do the practices during that time, you can use a meditation.The goal basically is to fall asleep in the emotional state that you want to be in, that you see your future self or yourself right now being in.This is where psychology meets embodiment because a new belief without a new emotional experience stays intellectual.This is why gratefulness practices work so well because it's focused on a feeling that you're radiating and we are emotional beings.This is you know our emotions are very strong and they're radiant.So generate feelings of gratitude, confidence, love, abundance is really important because we want to become more and more familiar with these emotional states.We don't want to feel like a stranger when we feel these things.We want to be comfortable experiencing them.We want to expand our nervous system to be able to hold these types of emotional states for longer and longer and longer.
Describes how environment, social circles, and role models reinforce a new identity and make change feel believable. Concludes by showing how inner shifts naturally lead to new actions and a new reality.
Once this feels stable and good next step would be the environmental conditioning because your environment ultimately reinforces constantly to you who you are.This is why in the beginning it's kind of important to ignore your reality a bit because obviously these things need time to catch up.Your social circle, media, routines, habits, all of these things reinforce the person that you want to become, reinforce to you who you are in this moment.That's why it's really important in these times of change to be hyper aware of every little thing that you do and how it makes you feel.And it might feel overwhelming and exhausting but it's going to be worth it.Cutting out the habits that don't serve you, minimize contact with the people that make you feel bad, that drain you, minimize going to situations, places, anything that drains you.Getting yourself into new situations, create new experiences, meeting new people that actually live a reality that is in alignment with who you want to be, expose yourself to these types of situations.
Basically you're proving yourself that you're becoming this new person, you're feeding your brain proof of becoming that person.Another way to give your brain that proof is to find people online maybe like two three people that you really admire that are living a similar life that you see yourself living in the future and then really tryto connect with them and expose yourself to their thoughts a lot because reading their books or reading autobiographies because it is telling your brain this is possible.Someone has done it before, you know?Most of the time people are not trying to do something so crazy that hasn't been done before in this world.Looking at people that have already what you have or that have done the work that you're trying to do is making it so much more believable for your brain that you can do it too because we're all just
humans, you know?I think for me this is one of the most difficult parts.Why?Because this is the first step where you actually go out into the world and you're creating friction with your reality, with your old reality because you're all of a sudden not accepting the same treatment anymore.You're all of a sudden maybe talking differently, maybe you're acting more confident, maybe you're triggering other people around you now.And something that helped me in this process to not, you know, freak out is to tell myself that this is only temporary and become less reactive.Now when you're taking these steps into your environment, changing your behavior and exposing yourself to new experiences, you're already doing basically the last point that I want to touch upon which is how all of this will naturally changeyour behavior.So instead of forcing behavior, fighting yourself, judging yourself, creating a loop basically of force, fail, guilt, and repeat.
Now because you've done the inner work, your actions will naturally change.They will naturally change when your self-concept changes because now if your subconscious belief is that you are enough, that you are loved no matter what, your actions will naturally reflect that.You will naturally make choices that a person that loves themselves would be doing versus if you come from a subconscious belief I am not enough and then you know you should be eating healthy, you should be doing this,you should be doing that, you should respect yourself.You know these things and you focus on the actions and you force yourself to do these actions, but then you fail because it's your it's this fight that you're in, because your subconscious is not feeling that way.You're not feeling that way about yourself and you're forcing and forcing and it's hard and it doesn't need to be hard.
Change your self-concept so these actions come naturally to you.You will naturally not chase people.You will naturally communicate your needs because you know they're important and you will naturally walk away from inconsistency, from disrespectful behavior, from people and situations that drain you.And this change action will then lead to creating your new reality because your choices and actions change the reality.So the idea is not to chase a reality with desperation and force and putting it on a pedestal, something that you need to reach and that is so hard to reach and so hard to get there.The idea is to shift your inner state and from that state you begin making choices that are aligned with the wanted reality and start embodying the energies, the emotions, the behaviors of the person you are becoming before theexternal evidence arrives.And if you manage that, congratulations, your reality is about to shift.