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The speaker introduces the parenting series called the missing piece and thanks viewers for their support. She sets up the central theme of the message.
Yes, you are welcome back.It is discovering the missing piece in your parenting.What do we even call it?Discovering the missing piece in your parenting.D T M P.
All right.Yes, we just call it the missing piece.The missing piece is one, you know, something that I've done in the past 24 days that I'm excited about.So, recently I took a tour to watching the missing piece every episode of it in the past 23 days because almost we're getting there.Every day we're going to do this till the end of November and that will be and I realized how much that, you know, it's been out there and the the kind of responses we've had.I want to say thank you for commenting.I want to say thank you for following and I also want to thank you for subscribing.Subscription to our YouTube channel is free.You will just see it.You just click on it.You just subscribe and then you just keep going.All right?This is very important.
The speaker explains that children learn more from what parents do than what they say. She uses Timothy, Lois, and Eunice to show how faith and behavior are passed down through modeling.
Your child is learning from what you do, not just what you say.That's the central message of today.You know, Paul, the apostle, was talking about sincere faith that firstly in Timothy's mother, Lois, and his mother, Eunice, and that was now evident in Timothy.Second Timothy chapter 1 verse 15.I want you to think about it.There was something Timothy had seen, experience across generations.His faith was not just about something he had.It was something he had witnessed.Lois lived it.Eunice received it and passed it on to Timothy.Come on now.Timothy became another expression of the legacy of faith.Can your children take your faith?Can they travel with it?That thing that you are modeling, your honesty, your integrity, that thing that you believe so much in your family, can they travel with it?Take a look at how Lois was able to travel, Eunice, and then to Timothy.
That's the power of modeling.What does this mean to you?You cannot constantly shout at your children to stop shouting.Are you getting the point now?You know, you cannot demand that your children are speaking respectfully when you are regularly speaking disrespectfully to others.In the inner circle, we call it dirty smelly bad character.D S B character.Ah, you can't have it.And you know what happens most of the times?This behavior or this bad character that we all exhibit, sometimes is out of parenting modeling.And when you have them, your children are going to carry it on.The way that positive models are carried on is the way that negative models are also carried on.What will they travel with?You cannot insist that your child apologizes when you you never admit that you're also wrong.Have you apologized to your child before?
I'm sure you're going to say, "Ah, ah, I'm the parent now."Are you in for labor?Are you God?Your children are watching.Sometimes, the value we're trying so hard to teach our children are the very values that they are struggling to see in us.And that's why you need the inner circle.Because when you get into the inner circle, the first thing you learn is what to do with you because parenting is first about you.It's not about your child.Your lifestyle is your child's curriculum.Mhm.So, you're not raising a child, you're demonstrating what adulthood, relationship, discipline, faith, responsibility can look like.I want you to remember that modeling does not mean that you have to be perfect.No.You It means that you must be willing to practice what you teach, acknowledge your mistakes, and allow your child to see you growing.
This is your assignment today.
She challenges parents to honestly assess what they are asking children to become and whether they are modeling it themselves. Practical examples include reading, prayer, respect, and discipline.
This is for you.Ask yourself honestly, "What am I asking my child to become that I'm not modeling?"Choose one area.You want your child to read.Are you really really reading?You know, in the inner circle, one of the things that we insist you do is to read.So, you're going to read throughout the month.I'll be throughout the year.Right?And it's interesting that a lot of parents tell me, "One of the problems I have is to read."Well, you're the one that's telling your children about.You're not reading.You're not You want your children to pray.Are they seeing you pray?You don't talk to God.You don't I didn't see you scrolling on your phone.Do you believe in prayer?You want your children to be respectful.Are you modeling respectful communication?You want your children to be disciplined.Discipline is not you shouting, you know.
Discipline is your routine.Can they see consistency in what you do?
The speaker shares a personal story about being recognized for her steadiness and discipline. She emphasizes that children notice consistency and that parents should also be willing to apologize and earn their children's pride.
One of the things that happened to me recently that blew my mind was a group of my son's friends insisting and asking me to come and be the chairman of their graduating set.I've been nominated and I said, "Mhm, I don't have time to really do this and all of that."Do you know what they said to my son?They said, "You know, Mom C is very steady."Ah.It means that these children can see the discipline even through those eyes.It was such a proud moment for me.Guess what?I'm doing it.
Because you know what?That's so much trust.You know, young people.And I'm like, "Ah, no, these are my sons.I can't disappoint them."So, yeah, I'm going there.You're going to hear the news.And I'm going to share my testimony.Evidence that choke.Like we say in the yard.But the point is the children can see through you.And then when my son brought that message to me to say, "Mom, they said that Mom C we need to do this thing.Oh, please, so come and just agree to do this thing.Everybody was in the set.You are the only one they can trust to deliver it."Why are they able to?My routine.The steadiness.So, people can see what you do.You want your child to apologize.You need to also learn how to apologize.You want your child to become, you know, somebody that, you know, people are proud of.
You will come, ma, sa.Is your child going to be proud of you?My happiest moment is always when my children are proud of me.It's not the other way around, really.Because I am the parent.And that should be your testimony.
She closes by introducing herself and inviting viewers to register for the Inner Circle program. The segment ends with instructions on how to join and receive daily teaching.
My name is Wendy Oloye.And I'm called Africa's number one parent coach.I'm the founder of the International Parent Academy.If you haven't yet registered for Inner Circle yet, 27 1st of December is almost here.We have 20 27 or 26 days to go.If you don't get in by 1st of December so that you can hear me every day teaching you with the samples with scriptures with practical knowledge and tools.Ah, you'll miss a lot.Just put inner circle in the comment section and you will thank me eventually for it.I'm sure that someone has spoken to you about inner circle or maybe you're just coming across it for the first time.Put inner circle in the comment section.Reach out to you instantly and share details on how you can join the app.See you in the app.